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Authentic Self

My meditation teacher told me long ago that it was essential to speak your truth all the time. I remember thinking that this would be impossible, that lies were just a facet of everyday existence. Everyone lies, I thought. And what’s wrong with white lies? Surely you don’t want to hurt another’s feelings. I continued to lie but the lesson stayed with me. I meditate every day, sometimes for hours, and as my consciousness expanded, I felt an inner urging to be my authentic self. My teacher’s words echoed with the urging. I realised there was no way I could be authentic whilst still lying.


And so began the journey. And it wasn’t easy. We have been programmed to lie and there are many reasons we lie. Obviously people lie to deceive. Sometimes we lie to appease, sometimes to avoid confrontation, sometimes to protect our reputations. We white lie to so as not to hurt feelings. Even exaggerating is lying. Whatever the reason, if you become aware of lies you will find that you lie a lot of the time.

One of the first steps in becoming your authentic self is to be aware of when you lie. Try then to tell the truth the best you can. The perfect place to start is with your partner. Hide nothing because the truth will always be revealed at some stage. Be honest with your feelings, your triggers, and your behaviours. Then try to incorporate this with family, then friends, then the wider community.


Accessing the vibration of the authentic self makes the process easier. The authentic self is associated with the fifth chakra in the left hand side of the throat. Meditate inside your throat at this point to access the energy of the authentic self which will make it easier to speak the truth.


In being truthful, you align with higher consciousness and remove the masks to reveal your true self. You grow in integrity and personal power. This does not mean you have to defend your views and impose your truth onto others. But if asked your opinion try to answer honestly, even if you know the other person will disagree with you, even attack you. And yes, even if the results appear detrimental. I had to leave a long term job because I spoke my truth. But in doing so I realised that a job that didn’t allow me to be true to my self was not in my best interest. Now I’m teaching meditation, reading chakras and writing about my insights along the way. By far a better career and in alignment with my higher purpose.


My teacher was right all those years ago. Being authentic is a milestone on the road to higher consciousness and integrity. Telling the truth, your truth, helps you to remove your masks and align with your higher self and the divine. Take small steps and gradually you’ll get there. It’s not easy but it’s worth it.

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Soul Mates

Every relationship is an important learning experience. Look at the experience as moulding you. You learn what you like in a relationship and what you don’t. You learn what works for you and what doesn’t. You learn what upsets you and what makes you happy.

Then there comes a time that a soul has experienced all the learning it needs. This is indicated when a person is alone for a long time and relationships just have a habit of not working out. Or if in a relationship it is common for one person to start pushing the other person away and rejecting them. Rejection can come from angry outbursts, being cheated on, withdrawl of affection and intimacy, one partner creating distance and so on.

If this occurs, it is important for the person being rejected to let go and not hold on to the relationship. Being rejected is actually a subconscious parting and it has a metaphysical origin. It is the Universe informing you that it is time to move on. Your soul may need some time before another relationship or it could be the time for the ultimate relationship: soul mate relationships.

Soul mates are the twin halves of a single soul. Once during a meditation I was shown that the soul exists in a yin and yang like relationship in the Divine. When a soul incarnates, the soul then splits in two. Usually one half of the soul incarnates before the other and when both halves have incarnated, it is a couple’s task to find their soul mate whilst on earth.

This is not always an easy process. How do you know when you meet your soul mate? There are certain markers. Intense attraction is one. ‘I just know’ is another. Unfortunately though these feelings are often misconstrued and I know of couples getting married based on these feelings only to have the attraction fade and intimacy wane, leading to the end of the relationship.

There is one marker that is the truest indication that a couple are soul mates: soul mates share the same chakras. Shared chakras only ever happen between soul mates and in no other relationships. This is because your soul mate is literally your other half, the twin to your soul. Meditation and inner work open chakras. Meditation between soul mates facilitates a flow of energy from chakra to chakra and from heart to heart. When a chakra to chakra connection is made then soul mates begin to return to the divine union from where they originated and they will look upon each other as simply magical. They will have eyes only for each other and will never want another.

This sounds idyllic and it is. Conscious soul mate relationships provide everything you could ever want out of a partner. But what if you’re not in a soul mate relationship? If your soul experiences the longing for its other half but you have no idea where to begin, don’t despair. The first thing to realise is that there is someone for everyone. Truly. Sometimes this realisation alone is enough to begin pulling your soul mate into your orbit. Then there is meditation. Meditation imbues your quest for your soul mate with consciousness. It is the call to the Universe to reunite the halves of your soul.

My mother and sister used meditation to find their soul mates. Mum was working in a store long ago. She was single and unhappy. A man would come into the store and she was highly attracted to him. She got to know him and found that over the months the attraction grew. He ticked every box on her checklist. She never pursued anything in her place of work because she thought that a man so wonderful would definitely be taken.

So she did a Wayne Dyer meditation for manifesting. She pictured the man from the store as a prototype and put this image out into the Universe. Then she wrote an ad in the singles section of a newspaper (this being before online dating). Guess who was the very first man to answer the ad? Yes, it was the man from the store. They soon married and like all good fairy tales lived happily ever after. Similarly, my sister meditated on her perfect partner and manifested him after a few months.

Meditation is a powerful tool. Learn from your relationships and when your soul is ready use meditation to manifest your soul mate. There is someone for everyone and your soul mate is the other half of your soul. With a little discipline and dedication you can have the perfect person in your life for the love you desire. It may not come immediately but will arrive in some unforseen way when your soul is ready. And when that person is in your life, meditation opens the chakras to achieve a flow of happiness, love and wonder that is only achieved by a soul mate reunion.

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Three Wellbeing Keys

Wellbeing is an achievable state. It is a place of mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health. It’s where you conduct successful relationships, are productive and happy. When you are happy you can live better, love more and play harder. There are many great wellbeing tools. Here are three essentials:

Meditation

Most people are stressed. Stress blocks passion and inspiration. It puts people out of balance and promotes anger and impatience. Meditation is one of the best tools to manage stress. It heals the mind and body. It safeguards mental health. It promotes rest and inner peace. It helps to develop creativity, insight and clarity. It rejuvenates the spirit. I find breath meditation, mindfulness and Rayid meditation to be effective.

  • Breath Meditation

Lack of rest and sleep cause stress. People tend to work themselves to exhaustion and are in desperate need of rest. Imagine you have internal batteries. If they are not recharged then they burn out. The internal batteries are only recharged when the mind is in alpha state. Alpha is a lower, more relaxed and creative state. In alpha state the mind calms. The body begins to self heal and regenerate the nervous system, organs and cells. Sleep will not recharge internal batteries fully as the mind cycles between alpha, theta and delta states.

The mind is in beta state when the eyes are open. Closing the eyes automatically puts the mind into alpha state. The best way to get the rest you need is to close the eyes and lie still for 20 minutes. I have found less than 20 minutes is not as effective. While meditating you will find the mind races. This is ok and normal. Meditation is an art. It takes years to train the mind. Instead give the mind another focus. Concentrate on breathing through the solar plexus. When your mind begins to race bring your focus back to the breath.

  • Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a simple but effective tool. It helps relax the mind and to bring your focus into the Now. Go to the park, beach or into the backyard. Concentrate on nature. By focussing on nature you leave your concerns behind. Listen to birdsong, the sound of waves crashing or the whisper of wind in the trees. Feel the sunlight on your skin or watch the clouds float by. Do this for as long as you like.

  • Rayid Meditation

Denny Johnson taught me Rayid in 2000 and I have used it every day since. Rayid meditation helps to increase the flow of divine light. It connects you to infinite wells of feeling. I use Rayid to access inner peace when stressed but there are many more vibrations. According to Rayid there are six primary energy centres (chakras). Each of these centres has a yin (passive, night, stillness) and a yang (active, day, heat) side. This makes 12 meditation positions. Each meditation point has a different vibration or gift. The names of each point relate to Rayid Birth Order.

          Yin Vibrations

The first of these points is One Boy. This is the vibration of freedom, adventure, fun, inspiration, imagination and humility.

Two Girl is enchantment, inner peace, calm, ease, mystery.

Three Boy is clarity, insight, strategy, intelligence, cleverness, social awareness.

Four Girl is non-judgement, change, letting go, dissolving negativity, releasing, tenderness, unconditional love, allowing and acceptance.

Five Boy is connecting to your genius, artistry, perfection, kindness.

Six Girl is purity, unity (to the divine), silence, bliss.

 

          Yang Vibrations

One Girl is the vibration of inner strength, groundedness, endurance, care of the family, the mineral kingdom.

Two Boy is the essence of the martial arts warrior, courage, boldness, passion, purpose, success, direction.

Three girl is health (mental, emotional and physical), wisdom, balance, nature, harmony, justice, nurturing.

Four Boy is prosperity, nobility, wealth, celebration, friendship, brotherhood, joy, laughter, alliances, charisma.

Five Girl is compassion (for yourself and others), love of all animals, vitality, service to the world.

Six Boy is command, leadership, the general, power of the spoken word.

The trick to Rayid is to meditate in the body at each of the points. The cells, tissue, organs and muscle store the feeling. Because the feelings are internalised it raises your vibration.

 

Exercise

Endorphins are released during exercise. So is adrenaline, serotonin and dopamine These work to boost mood and even act as natural pain-killers. I find exercise washes away stress and stimulates vitality. Cardio is more effective than anaerobic for this. So going for a run, walk or swim is better than weights. A run is an amazing hang-over cure. It is recommended to do about 30 min a day of cardio. I run 4-5 days a week. Weights are great for strength, sculpting the body and promoting a positive body image. I work a body part a day for around 40 min.

 

Diet

A good diet fuels the body and keeps it healthy. This in turn keeps the mind healthy and it is well known that there is a link between the gut and the brain. I have a Monday to Friday rule. I am strict on this rule and during the week cut out fat and sugar. Sugar has been linked to depression. I drink water and eat lots of fruit and vege. My main meal always has a protein which is usually a lean meat. I add a carbohydrate such as rice or pasta for energy. I also take supplements. When exercising I use a whey protein that contains BCAAs. Muscles need this for growth and recovery. I also take creatine to help in explosive movements and high intensity training. I take fish oils for brain functioning and B vitamins for mood. I use alpha lipoic as an antioxidant. I take vitamin C for my immune system and for its antioxidant effect.

On Saturdays I indulge. This is my reward day but I know my limits. By following this rule and combining it with exercise I lost 16 kg.

 

Wellbeing is a fantastic state. It inspires confidence and helps to put you at the top of your game. Meditation, exercise and diet are three keys in this process. Wellbeing takes time and discipline but you will feel great. Then you will be ready to take on the world –and more.