Every relationship is an important learning experience. Look at the experience as moulding you. You learn what you like in a relationship and what you don’t. You learn what works for you and what doesn’t. You learn what upsets you and what makes you happy.

Then there comes a time that a soul has experienced all the learning it needs. This is indicated when a person is alone for a long time and relationships just have a habit of not working out. Or if in a relationship it is common for one person to start pushing the other person away and rejecting them. Rejection can come from angry outbursts, being cheated on, withdrawl of affection and intimacy, one partner creating distance and so on.

If this occurs, it is important for the person being rejected to let go and not hold on to the relationship. Being rejected is actually a subconscious parting and it has a metaphysical origin. It is the Universe informing you that it is time to move on. Your soul may need some time before another relationship or it could be the time for the ultimate relationship: soul mate relationships.

Soul mates are the twin halves of a single soul. Once during a meditation I was shown that the soul exists in a yin and yang like relationship in the Divine. When a soul incarnates, the soul then splits in two. Usually one half of the soul incarnates before the other and when both halves have incarnated, it is a couple’s task to find their soul mate whilst on earth.

This is not always an easy process. How do you know when you meet your soul mate? There are certain markers. Intense attraction is one. ‘I just know’ is another. Unfortunately though these feelings are often misconstrued and I know of couples getting married based on these feelings only to have the attraction fade and intimacy wane, leading to the end of the relationship.

There is one marker that is the truest indication that a couple are soul mates: soul mates share the same chakras. Shared chakras only ever happen between soul mates and in no other relationships. This is because your soul mate is literally your other half, the twin to your soul. Meditation and inner work open chakras. Meditation between soul mates facilitates a flow of energy from chakra to chakra and from heart to heart. When a chakra to chakra connection is made then soul mates begin to return to the divine union from where they originated and they will look upon each other as simply magical. They will have eyes only for each other and will never want another.

This sounds idyllic and it is. Conscious soul mate relationships provide everything you could ever want out of a partner. But what if you’re not in a soul mate relationship? If your soul experiences the longing for its other half but you have no idea where to begin, don’t despair. The first thing to realise is that there is someone for everyone. Truly. Sometimes this realisation alone is enough to begin pulling your soul mate into your orbit. Then there is meditation. Meditation imbues your quest for your soul mate with consciousness. It is the call to the Universe to reunite the halves of your soul.

My mother and sister used meditation to find their soul mates. Mum was working in a store long ago. She was single and unhappy. A man would come into the store and she was highly attracted to him. She got to know him and found that over the months the attraction grew. He ticked every box on her checklist. She never pursued anything in her place of work because she thought that a man so wonderful would definitely be taken.

So she did a Wayne Dyer meditation for manifesting. She pictured the man from the store as a prototype and put this image out into the Universe. Then she wrote an ad in the singles section of a newspaper (this being before online dating). Guess who was the very first man to answer the ad? Yes, it was the man from the store. They soon married and like all good fairy tales lived happily ever after. Similarly, my sister meditated on her perfect partner and manifested him after a few months.

Meditation is a powerful tool. Learn from your relationships and when your soul is ready use meditation to manifest your soul mate. There is someone for everyone and your soul mate is the other half of your soul. With a little discipline and dedication you can have the perfect person in your life for the love you desire. It may not come immediately but will arrive in some unforseen way when your soul is ready. And when that person is in your life, meditation opens the chakras to achieve a flow of happiness, love and wonder that is only achieved by a soul mate reunion.