These are ways to kill a relationship:

1)      Not communicating. The inability to talk about issues or discuss feelings leads to simmering resentment. Issues fester and people become more and more discontent. It is important to speak your truth in relationships and communicate exactly how you feel. If something hurts or annoys you then talk about it. If you are unhappy bring it up.

Issues will arise in any relationship no matter who you are with. You have to be prepared to work through them. Speaking your truth can initially be difficult but don’t be afraid. Talking about issues can heal a relationship. Communication means broaching issues maturely and calmly. Not shouting or arguing.

2)      Too much time together. You revolve your life around your partner and do everything together. It’s called co-dependence and is so unattractive. You will begin to take each other for granted and the spark will die. It is integral to have your own life, friends and interests.

3)      Too much time apart. Relationships are a balancing act. Just as too much time together is destructive so is too much time apart. A relationship is like a flower. It needs nurturing. If you are away a lot then plan to have special time together.

4)      Neglecting friends. If you disappear when in a relationship your friends will resent you. There is an old saying that partners may come and go but friends are forever. Friends support you and make you laugh. Make time for your friends. And unless it’s a couple’s night don’t bring your partner.

5)      Neediness. Don’t look for someone to fill your need for love or affection. Practice self-love before beginning a relationship. Be comfortable with who you are. Enjoy your own company. When you love yourself then a partner will actually love you even more.

6)      Being a submissive male. Men need to be masculine. This means being assertive, decisive and strong in relationships. Being unable to stand up for yourself and always deferring to your partner is a turn-off. It’s boring and she will not respect you. There are times when you need to put yourself first and do what is important for you. You need to have clear boundaries and to assert them. Being masculine doesn’t mean sacrificing kindness and affection though. These qualities are just integrated.